During my DTS I got a card which said: "It`s during hard times (hills) that you reach new things!" ("Det er i motbakke det går oppover"). I have been pundering and wondering a bit about that lately.
I have had a conflict lately with a person whom I really admire, respect and like hanging out with! The dilemma has not been that person, but rather our differences in ways of communicating and dealing with misunderstandings. I am a verbal person, sometimes maybe close to what can be considered healthy or good for you (!), but than on the other hand not always being able to deal with it right then and there has been incredibly frustrating. I dont know how that person will react regards to me writing about "that" here, but I hope that if that persons finds out it will be "ok" because this is really not meant as anything else than a "thought-process on diffrences between two people."
The thing is not to treat people like as if "they are just like yourself", but rather try to find out how they like to communicate and what will work best for them. It`s been hard! When I see something that`s not as it usually is, I want to talk and "fix it" as soon as possible!! But for other people it might be something else they will feel more comfortble with. My biggest issue, I guess, is learning to forgive them for not being "what" and "who I want them to be" in the situation we`re both in. For not answering in the sort of way that I perhaps will see as "logic" or maybe even polite. Try to look beyond what they do or don`t do, and focus on their heart! Seeing what`s in their heart towards me and/or the situation. And if their heart is "right", it will work out! I don`t want to continue to be stressed and afraid for ruining a relationship if things doesn`t happen in "my way", when "I want it to". God, forgive me!!
When you reach the top of a new hill you will get a new perspective of things. (but it`s never pleasant to do the walking up the hill).
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